{"id":3233,"date":"2026-03-20T08:59:40","date_gmt":"2026-03-20T06:59:40","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.mottetreening.ee\/helinablogi\/?p=3233"},"modified":"2026-03-20T15:04:26","modified_gmt":"2026-03-20T13:04:26","slug":"kuidas-vasimus-mojutab-motlemist-miks-halb-paev-tundub-vahel-nagu-kogu-elu-oleks-valesti","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.mottetreening.ee\/helinablogi\/kuidas-vasimus-mojutab-motlemist-miks-halb-paev-tundub-vahel-nagu-kogu-elu-oleks-valesti\/","title":{"rendered":"Kuidas v\u00e4simus m\u00f5jutab m\u00f5tlemist: miks halb p\u00e4ev tundub vahel nagu kogu elu oleks valesti"},"content":{"rendered":"
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On p\u00e4evi, kus midagi suurt pole otseselt “valesti\u201d, aga mitu v\u00e4ikest l\u00f6\u00f6ki satuvad \u00fchele reale. \u00d5htul tekib autoga tehniline probleem. \u00d6\u00f6 tuleb katkendlik. Hommikul on keha v\u00e4sinud, n\u00e4rv \u00f5huke ja m\u00f5te juba liigub m\u00f6\u00f6da sama vana rada: k\u00f5ik on halvasti<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Sellises hetkes on kerge arvata, et probleem on olukorras endas. M\u00f5nikord ongi. Aga sageli ei tee suurimat kahju mitte s\u00fcndmus ise, vaid see, kuidas v\u00e4sinud seisund hakkab s\u00fcndmust t\u00f5lgendama<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

V\u00e4sinud meel r\u00e4\u00e4gib suurte lausetega<\/h3>\n

Seisund ei kirjelda ainult hetke \u2013 ta tahab kirjutada \u00fcmber kogu pildi<\/strong>. V\u00e4sinud meel ei \u00fctle: \u201cmul on t\u00e4na kitsas.\u201d Ta \u00fctleb: \u201calati on nii.\u201d Ta ei \u00fctle: \u201csee konkreetne asi tekitas vastumeelsust.\u201d Ta \u00fctleb: \u201cma ei taha \u00fcldse enam tegutseda.\u201d<\/p>\n

Just siin eksivad paljud inimesed. Mitte selles, et nad tunnevad liiga palju, vaid selles, et nad annavad oma seisundile liiga suure t\u00f5ev\u00e4\u00e4rtuse<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

\u00c4ra aja segamini kolme asja<\/h3>\n

Seisundi \u00e4ratundmine on oluline selleks, et mitte ajada segi kolme eri tasandit:<\/p>\n

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  • Esiteks see, mis p\u00e4riselt juhtus<\/strong> (auto l\u00e4ks katki, laps ei maganud);<\/li>\n
  • Teiseks see, mida su n\u00e4rvis\u00fcsteem selle peale teeb<\/strong> (oled \u00e4rritunud ja tundlikum);<\/li>\n
  • Kolmandaks need j\u00e4reldused<\/strong>, mida v\u00e4sinud m\u00f5istus tahab sellest sinu elu, t\u00f6\u00f6 v\u00f5i identiteedi kohta teha.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

    Kui oled l\u00e4bi, siis see on p\u00e4ris. Aga sellest ei j\u00e4reldu automaatselt, et su t\u00f6\u00f6 ei too tulemusi v\u00f5i sa oled p\u00f5him\u00f5tteliselt v\u00f5imetu.<\/p>\n

    Kui neutraalne tundub sissetungina<\/h3>\n

    Kui inimene on sisemiselt t\u00fchi, k\u00f5lab ka neutraalne pakkumine vahel sissetungina. Sul pole tol hetkel sisemist ruumi midagi vastu v\u00f5tta. Sellest v\u00f5ib tekkida valus m\u00f5te: miks mina pean andma, aitama, looma, kui tundub, et mind ennast ei aita keegi?<\/em><\/p>\n

    Siis ei vaju kokku ainult energia. Kokku vajub ka side oma t\u00f6\u00f6 m\u00f5ttega<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

    Kuidas tulla tagasi?<\/h3>\n

    V\u00e4sinud inimesel ei ole vaja end motivatsiooniga \u00fcles k\u00fctta, vaid oma m\u00f5tlemist kitsendada<\/strong>:<\/p>\n

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    • Nimeta seisund p\u00e4riss\u00f5nadega:<\/strong> Mitte \u201ck\u00f5ik on l\u00e4bi\u201d, vaid \u201colen v\u00e4sinud ja mu m\u00f5istus \u00fcldistab praegu kiiresti.\u201d<\/li>\n
    • V\u00f5ta maha suured j\u00e4reldused:<\/strong> \u00dcks halb hommik ei t\u00f5esta, et su strateegia on vale.<\/li>\n
    • Tee \u00fcks v\u00e4ike p\u00e4ris liigutus:<\/strong> K\u00fcsi, mis on k\u00f5ige v\u00e4iksem aus samm, mida saad teha ilma end reetmata?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

      K\u00fcpsus ei t\u00e4henda seda, et sul pole halbu seisundeid. K\u00fcpsus t\u00e4hendab, et sa ei usu neid pimesi<\/strong>. Halb seisund tuleb ja l\u00e4heb \u2013 \u00e4ra lase tal vahepeal \u00fcmber kirjutada seda, kes sa oled.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

      On p\u00e4evi, kus midagi suurt pole otseselt “valesti\u201d, aga mitu v\u00e4ikest l\u00f6\u00f6ki satuvad \u00fchele reale. \u00d5htul tekib autoga tehniline probleem. \u00d6\u00f6 tuleb katkendlik. Hommikul on keha v\u00e4sinud, n\u00e4rv \u00f5huke ja m\u00f5te juba liigub m\u00f6\u00f6da sama vana rada: k\u00f5ik on halvasti. Sellises hetkes on kerge arvata, et probleem on olukorras endas. […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_genesis_hide_title":false,"_genesis_hide_breadcrumbs":false,"_genesis_hide_singular_image":false,"_genesis_hide_footer_widgets":false,"_genesis_custom_body_class":"","_genesis_custom_post_class":"","_genesis_layout":"full-width-content","_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[306],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-3233","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","6":"category-mottetreening","7":"entry"},"acf":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.mottetreening.ee\/helinablogi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3233","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.mottetreening.ee\/helinablogi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.mottetreening.ee\/helinablogi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mottetreening.ee\/helinablogi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mottetreening.ee\/helinablogi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3233"}],"version-history":[{"count":8,"href":"https:\/\/www.mottetreening.ee\/helinablogi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3233\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3241,"href":"https:\/\/www.mottetreening.ee\/helinablogi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3233\/revisions\/3241"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.mottetreening.ee\/helinablogi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3233"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mottetreening.ee\/helinablogi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3233"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mottetreening.ee\/helinablogi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3233"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}